There are days when you will feel like like shit. Trust me, I’ve had a few of those recently. You may feel uncomfortable in your body, lack of energy and passion, pandas would envy your dark circles and perhaps there is a new zit or two (or three..) on your face. Today I’ll share you some peer support as well as tips how to deal with those days when you’d prefer to not get out of the bed.
Acknowledge your feelings
It’s okay to feel like shit sometimes. Some of us are more prone to stress, changes in our skin and body or mood swings. Don’t hate or put yourself down because of these feelings, acknowledging is the first baby step towards dealing. Once you let go off the unnecessary guilt of feeling bad, you may tackle the reasons or even do damage control.
“Today I want to cover myself in a sack.” That’s okay. “Today everything is going wrong and it pisses me off” It’s fine. “Today my zits are the centre of attention” It’ll pass. “..But everything is wrong and I deserve it!” Stop, it’s not your fault.
Use Humour As Your Weapon
You had lipstick on your teeth and poured coffee on yourself during a meeting? Maybe instead of getting embarrassed or angry, try brushing it off by saying “Sorry, oops, it’s one of those days”. You will most likely make other people more comfortable around you when you laugh at the situation vs throwing a tantrum. You will appear more grown up, handling the situation with your shit together. You can later let it all out, perhaps during a physical activity.
Bloating, Zits, Bags Under the Eyes..
They’re all temporary. Make sure to stay hydrated during the day, don’t poke or squeeze your face (it’ll make things just worse). Use cold towel, cold spoons or eye masks to make your face and eye area feel more cool and relaxed - it also reduces puffiness. Consider light exercise to get your fluids moving.
Dealing with people who drain you
Constant complainers, overly critical, dramatic, constantly negative and demanding people.. Some are always like that, but perhaps your friend, relative or colleague is also having a crap day - either way, don’t get pulled in. You can be kind and emphatic while protecting yourself. If you can, be open about it: “This situation/mood is affecting me, please lets change the subject” or “I hear you, but these are my boundaries”. If these methods don’t help; politely limit your contact and disengage.
My Makeup Therapy Routine
First: take a shower and wash away your worries. If you feel very anxious, try a cold shower for a couple of minutes. When needing to relax a bit, use warm water or take a bath. It’s much nicer and easier to continue to next steps when you’re fresh and clean. If you can, wash your hair as well.
Second: Music, video or a podcast and a beverage. For me it’s always coffee, usually Youtube playing on the background with something inspiring that uplifts. Gather your tools and brushes. Eliminate negative thoughts and self-critique at this point, you’re trying to make yourself feel better and not worse. When looking at yourself in the mirror, don’t focus on “flaws” or start picking at your face; today your skin is what it is.
Third is prepping your skin. When I’m feel grimy or down I like to start with an exfoliating toner, followed by hyaluronic acid serum, moisturizer and SPF. Something simple, quick, that leaves my skin both feeling fresh and hydrated. If you’ve been crying or sleeping badly, I urge you to try a cold jade roller, refridgerated eye patches or spoons around your eyes. There isn’t a magic ingredient for puffiness except caffeine and lymphatic drainage with massage, I often prefer the latter. Little self-care and pamper makes me feel good mentally.
Finally is any makeup you enjoy using. Maybe there’s something you have been saving for a special occasion? Grab it now. Go on, do it. The routine doesn’t need to be long and elaborate in technique unless you want to. I often get energized when I do a nicely even base with foundation and full coverage concealer, lots of luminous blush and either glittery eyes or power lip with red, bright orange or maroon. Let the music or video play on the background, sip your drink and take a couple of deep breathes.
Some Youtube inspiration for you:
From Chores to (Enjoyable) Routines
I love healthy routines. When the brain doesn’t need to focus on planing the next step you can concentrate on being mindful in the moment or perhaps get inspired for future things. I try to think about my beauty routine as something positive and creative I can do each morning - plus taking some time for myself.
I avoid any negative associations like “I’m so busy, but I can’t go out looking like this”. Yes, you can. If you don’t have the time, just leave it. Makeup is always optional. Try building the confidence to go either makeup free or perhaps trying something new in your routine. When done in good lighting using clean tools, the application feels much more pleasant.
I hope you enjoyed this type of post! What beauty related self-care routines do you have? I just had a month long hiatus from blogging because of personal reasons, but I’m happy to be back and inspired to create new content! x